Last Christmas, I had gotten Greg a bag of nuts. Oh, stop making faces! He never wants anything, and so he will have things to open, I get him several inexpensive gifts that I know he would like. I incorrectly assumed he'd like a healthy snack of nuts, because he enjoys raw almonds. So for nearly nine months, the nuts have sat on a shelf in the pantry, uneaten, because I never got around to purchasing a nutcracker because had I done that, the nuts would by now be gone, consumed by me. It was a common snack back when I was a child and we visited my grandparents.
This evening, I was heading back outside while there was still daylight left to make some progress on a blue wall I'm relocating. There, in the driveway, were the three youngest boys smashing nuts with rocks. Jeffrey was not successful as long as he kept using his plastic toy hammer.
So....., is this typical boy behavior? I mean, should I have just shrugged my shoulders and told them to carry on because it is a well known fact that all boys enjoy smashing nuts, among other things? Why are they so destructive? Will my house be standing by the time they reach adulthood, or will it have already fallen down around my ears?
Oh, and if your name is 'Anonymous', you don't need to reply. I don't post here to get crucified by people who think they can pass judgment on somebody based on words alone. You should talk.
I think everyone has a different parenting style. Some are more laid back than others. It is definitely easier to judge other parenting styles than it is to judge your own. If someone is bold enough to let you (you meaning anyone/everyone, not just you, kerri) know how they view your parenting style, it is difficult to not be defensive about it. They are only trying to help because they can probably see the problems more clearly than you can. Their views may not be how you choose to raise your children, but that is your prerogative. They are only trying to help and I think we all have to keep that in mind when receiving critism. That being said however there are better ways to criticize than telling someone that their child is going to be a juvinile deliquient. This is not constructive whether or not that is how you feel. In the end I think we all want what is best for the children. Maybe we should look at ourselves first, as parents, and try to see what the others are seeing. Have an open mind. It may help us in the end, it may not. It is all about the children.
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