Okay (pun!), give me your take on this. G will often incorporate this word in his vocabulary, and in my opinion, completely alter its meaning. Let me give you a common example of how a conversation with, oh, let's say - Tommy - will play out:
G: I have zero tolerance for you destroying things. You do NOT throw rocks in the pool. If that liner tears, I am not replacing it and that will be the end of it. If I catch you throwing things in there or doing things you shouldn't be, it will be an automatic punishment, no questions asked. You got me?
T: Okay.
G: No, it's NOT okay. I'm sick and tired of you not listening and me having to repeat myself over and over. It's not okay. Start respecting the house and the property and don't do things you shouldn't....
So you get the picture, right? I mean, I what does he expect for an answer? This morning, he did the same thing to me in a telephone conversation, and I challenged him in his own game. "Why do you always say that? What do you expect me to say to acknowledge what you keep telling me over and over? I get it. I hear you loud and clear." His reply was that I didn't get it and that I don't hear him and so it is all not okay.
Anyway, it really bugs me. I need a clever reply to his, "No, it's NOT okay." Any suggestions? And while you're thinking of one, head on over to Stanmark Moments for a laugh and true appreciation of just what it is like living with four very active boys at my house. Okay?
K. and I always use this on each other when we "discuss" certain things that bug us about the other: "Thank you for caring enough to share."
ReplyDeletePS: We stole this from Dr. Phil several years ago. It works for us because we both saw the show..so we can laugh about the fact that the person giving the "lecture" lightens up a bit and realizes that he/she needs to chill...but the person receiving the "lecture" gets the point as well...and saves face.
R.
I cannot think of anything better than what R. said. We also watch Dr. Phil when we can. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteI am sure your husband is just frustrated and needs reassurance that everyone is on the same page.